Kawehi is married to her best friend and partner Paul.
Being in love has felt good since the beginning of time. Or at least since Romeo and Juliet made true love so popular and put people everywhere on the hunt for their “one and only”.
Maybe you got lucky and have been married for over 40 years. Maybe you haven’t been so lucky and you’re on your seventh marriage. Either way the fact still remains: as human beings we crave the feeling of being in love (well, most of us do).
So much relationship advice floats in and out of our lives. Friends and family always have the right advice for you. Follow your heart. Opposites attract. Try online dating websites. Personally, I have found that all of these are very valid ways of finding your one true love. Or at least someone you will be able to put up with for decades on end.
Do opposites really attract? They probably do in the beginning. That straight-laced gal finds nothing more intriguing than the biker dude covered in tattoos…right? Or the social butterfly of a cheerleader that completely crushes on the band geek. Does this only happen in movies? No, it certainly does not. In fact, it happens all the time. But when the honeymoon phase is over one can only hope that you have both completely captured each others hearts…or what once was so wildly appealing could turn into the very things that make your skin crawl.
If the whole idea of opposites attracting does not appeal to you, then we turn to the polar opposite of finding someone with whom you have almost everything in common. Kiss.com was the first pioneer of online dating starting in the early 1990’s and was the most popular for a number of years, but now there are several others out there to choose from.
Following your heart. This one might get a little tricky. You might feel like everything is fine and dandy, but in the end, as with Romeo and Juliet, it might not end up like you planned. I want to say it might be a scientific fact that in the end people don’t usually make the ultimate sacrifice. But who knows, it worked for Wesley and Buttercup in The Princess Bride. All in all, following your heart is surely a good way to go.
And then of course there are those lucky suckers that get a second chance with “the one that got away”. Off the top of my head I can think of two close to me. It’s always your first true love that cuts the deepest. They are sometimes also the one you end up thinking about for the rest of your life. Until that day they look you up on Facebook. Suddenly it’s like old times. And if you are truly lucky, you get to finally live your happily ever after.
Whichever method you chose, once you finally make the plunge, don’t be afraid of a little elbow grease: compromise, forgiveness and good old fashioned communication. As long as you’re on the same page it can go well for a very long time. Of course, when and if you decide to have kids, there is no good advice that can be given. Other than just LOVE THEM!!
There’s never a second chance to make a first impression. If you didn’t make the greatest first impression and would like to find out how to undo what you might have done, (or if you would like to simply brush up on your “skills”) check out the super useful tools below!
Bottom line…dating someone of a different race just doesn’t matter when it comes to love!